Stonewalling consists of:
- Refusal to negotiate a conflict in good faith
- Refusal to discuss honestly one’s motivations
- Refusal to listen to another point of view with openness
- Refusal to compromise
- Refusal to collaborate
- Refusal to support the other person’s plans
- Refusal to accept influence
By Michael Samsel
“Psychopaths blame their victims for what happened
and consider the victims’ fate irrelevant.”
The mocking and controlling behavior of the psychopathic mind is motivated by a claim for submission. The submission brings them feelings of excitement consisting of a type of victory. They enjoy what they consider to be a game of destroying people. It’s amusing to them.
Psychopaths never, repeat NEVER, take
personal responsibility for their behavior
—it’s always the fault of someone else.
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“These people are at war with you. Don’t ever tell them your secrets or your insecurities. They will just use it against you to inflict more pain. It’s a harsh reality to accept, but some people really are that hostile towards the world that they really are out to emotionally hurt everyone and anyone. The people they are closest to are just their easiest victims.”
Since, in the majority of cases, people who indulge in abuse are selective about whom they abuse, other people are typically surprised—or in disbelief—when hearing that someone is experiencing on-going and periodic abuse from someone they know and have always seen as nice and friendly. “Nice and friendly” is the persona of many conmen, abusers, and killers. Although many folks really are as nice and friendly as they seem, some most definitly are not. Like Ted Bundy.
If most members of a group are honest and intelligent, then evil people will be identified and excluded. When most members have psychopathic traits, the honest and intelligent people are identified and excluded! In a psychopath-controlled environment, it’s the honest people who seem defective and deviant.
Brain scans of teens with a history of aggressive bullying behavior suggest that they may actually get pleasure out of seeing someone else in pain. While this may come as little surprise to those who have been victimized by bullies, it is not what the researchers expected.
The reason they were surprised is because the prevailing view is that these kids are cold and unemotional in their aggression.
“It is entirely possible their brains are lighting in the way they are because they experience seeing pain in others as exciting and fun and pleasurable,” said one researcher.
“We need to test that hypothesis more, but that is what it looks like,” he added.
- ‘Bully’, a must-see for teens (bostonglobe.com)
- Emotional bullying (salemwitchhunt.wordpress.com)
- Are You Immune to Bullying? Learn about Someone who Is. (standupagainstbullyingguy.wordpress.com)
- The Anatomy of a Bully (dearfriendsblog.wordpress.com)
- Mom Seeks Restraining Order Against Daughter’s 9-Year-Old Bully (dreamindemon.com)
- Bullying (neumannpsychology.wordpress.com)
- Bullying study findings (itv.com)
- Bullying Helps (momentmatters.wordpress.com)
According to Dr. Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door
- Accept that some people have no conscience; that there are evil people in this world who do not act out of concern or love for another.
- Listen to your instincts — labels (professional roles) do not make a good person. Look carefully at someone who “carries” a professional label, judging whether that individual’s behavior fits what is expected of that professional role.
- Practice the rule of threes — One lie or broken promise may be a misunderstanding, two lies may involve a serious mistake, three lies — the individual is not trustworthy. Stay away from that individual.
- Question authority.
- Suspect flattery — when someone flatters you excessively, telling you how much they appreciate you or like it when you visit or how much they enjoy your conversations.
- Redefine your concept of respect — respect must be earned. Don’t automatically give respect to an individual because of her professional role or her relationship to you.
- Refuse to join the game — do not try to outsmart the sociopath. Do not reduce yourself to his level.
- Once you identify a sociopath, avoid him, refuse any kind of interaction. It is the only way to protect yourself.
- Question your tendency to pity too easily. Anyone who actively campaigns for your pity or consistently hurts others is likely a sociopath. Pity should be reserved for those who truly deserve it. Make sure the individual who seeks your help really needs it.
- Do not try to redeem the unredeemable. If you are dealing with someone without a conscience, you cannot change them, no matter how educated or loving you are. Sociopaths have no reason to change; they like who they are.
- Never agree to help a sociopath conceal her true character. You don’t owe the sociopath anything. Don’t believe that you are like her, no matter what she says. You are nothing like her.
- Defend your psyche. Humanity is not a failure. Being kind and loving and caring is the best way to live. It is the way most people live their lives.
- Living well is the best revenge.
- What not to read before bed (morvensblog.wordpress.com)
- Doc Bonn Explains: The Difference Between a Sociopath and a Psychopath (psychopathresistance.wordpress.com)
- Sociopaths and Psychopaths: Can They Be Cured? (phoenixsphere.com)
- Sociopaths R Us (lewrockwell.com)
- “Because most humans aren’t full-on sociopaths, alcohol and drugs are pretty much the only way…” (darkerme.com)
- Setting yourself up to be Judged (spreadinformation.wordpress.com)
- Why We Love Sociopaths (thelastpsychiatrist.com)
- Denzel Washington Studied Sociopaths for Safe House Role (shoppingblog.com)
- A Real Capacity for Evil (lewrockwell.com)
- Cape Fear (1991) (hesnersfilmcritiques.com)
- The Ascendence of Sociopaths in US Governance (theburningplatform.com)